Do you feel as though you are in this huge rat race where you have to be supermum/dad? Able to provide financially for your family, spend countless hours of fun filled time with your children all whilst looking perfect. (Swan syndome - elegant above water but pedalling at 100mh just to keep afloat)
I think we all of this preconcieved idea of what we will be like as a parent until we actually are one and then realise we are nothing like we thought we'd be.
Well rest assured we are all just trying to do the best we can! I myself have had my fair share of cringeworthy moments with my son; from daily tantrums on the way home from the park, to him enthusiastically shouting cock in the shop, when what he actually means is chocolate (shopkeepers love him) and in these moments, for that split second I am ashamed, worried about what others must think of me, offering up an explanation. But slowly I am transitioning out of this need for self criticism and realising that actually I do a pretty good job and these moments of him expressing himself are the ones that I will look back on fondly.
What I don't understand and maybe you will agree is why people feel the need to pretend as though life is perfect. Life is tough, brutal and mundane and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I think it's ok to admit that you'd rather stick pins in your eyes then watch another episode of paw patrol, or that you've worn the same clothes two days in a row because you don't want the hassle of doing laundry.
Even now I'm contemplating my next move as a mother. Am I raising my son to be the kind of person I would like him to be. Happy and confident. I hope that he is nothing like myself that he trusts himself and can go after the things he wants in life. I hope that if he ever gets the chance to read these posts that he knows how much he is loved. How much I am trying to love him unconditionally and how I will try to always see it from his point of view. Because to me that is the best I can do for him. I can't give him an abundant life, I can't teach him all of the things he will need to know, but I can be there for him, unjudging and ready to help him take his next steps.
Maybe you can relate, or maybe you can't. Either way I hope you can take some comfort from this post knowing that the perfect parent doesn't exist. Even if you could give your child the world...somewhere something would be sacrificed so that you could do that for them. No one can perfectly balance parenthood and life but if we make the choices that matter to us the most then we are on the right track. You are enough! You are what your child needs! Afterall some people believe that we choose our parents.
Have a fantastic day.
I hope to see you again soon.