It has taken me a long time to realise that I've been giving myself away. All of my life I have been acting for the benefit of others and have never acted in my own self interest.
This year has been a conscious effort for change. I would love you to embark on this journey too and reap the benefits.
Start taking back control and stop trying to please others. It's a game you can't win. You can't make everybody happy so you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness.
You matter! What you want matters! You just need to take action and have accountability. Find activities that bring you joy and dedicate time to those. Everybody has different dreams and desires so whether you dream big or small you have the right to that dream, the right to live your life how you want to and not how somebody else thinks you should. Parents, friends people you believe are acting in your best interests don't know what you want for your life so always take what they say with a pinch of salt and don't worry about going against their advice if it doesn't align with who you want to be right now.
The truth of the matter is you will be full of regret if you spend your life worrying about what other people think of you. You are amazing and unique and somewhere there is something that you should be doing. Something that makes you happy every day.
A good action to take for yourself right now is asking yourself what you want? Asking yourself who you are? And making a note of that. Now I took it a step further I actually created myself as a character with strengths, weaknesses and wrote a story about my life and what I see in my future. The reason I did that was to have a path and a purpose, I realised that I love helping other people and that I wanted to continue to help people but in a way that was less demanding of my time. Hence the reason I started my blog.
Maybe for you it will be something extremely different. But it has to be your journey.